Marriage & Dating Essentials

Picture this! A man meets a woman and they establish common ground. Emotions are aroused and the two begin to visualize themselves as one. During this process a commitment is pro-claimed and neither desires another. While visiting your sweetheart one day he receives a call. It’s the woman you heard about. “He’s just like the rest,” you think, as you hurt deeply. As you tell your girlfriend what happened she asks, “Why do men cheat?”

The world is full of mysteries and unexplained phenomenon. One of the most widely questioned is the inclination of men to involve themselves with multiple sexual partners of the opposite sex. Some claim to know, while others do not have a clue. Well, there is a logical explanation for this apparently consuming behavior.

As you may know, humans are animals despite the fact we are considered to be a higher form of intelligence. With that in mind, let us take a broader approach to this and consider all male beings, as opposed to men only. Male refers to the male of all animal species including humans. Although human males carry out their daily life on a more advanced level, their basic nature is the same as most other male species of animals. This basic nature is the key which unlocks the mystery of why men cheat.

Consider a farmer’s bull. The bull’s primary task is to fertilize the herd and produce calves while he is healthy and strong. There is usually one bull responsible for mating with several female cows. As that bull loses his spunk, he is replaced with another that is younger and stronger to maintain a healthy bloodline. Well, that is a controlled environment and the bulls don’t seem to have a choice. Even though the farmer places one bull in the field, he can’t force the bull to mate with all of the cows, but for some reason the bull does. The females never seem to have a problem with it. Why?

Now consider an uncontrolled environment and observe a pride of lions. Within a pride of about 15 to 25 lions, there is only one adult male. At a certain level of maturity, adolescent males must leave and find their own pride to oversee. With only one sexually mature male, the females know and expect him to father their young. As sexual desires arouse, that one adult male picks, chooses and circulates throughout the pride of lionesses. He "maintains" all of the females and they never question his lifestyle of dissipation. Why?

Let us come home to a domesticated situation that we have all witnessed and know about. Since men are referred to as dogs, think about dog behavior. Domesticated dogs aren’t usually set up in family groups that live together as lions do. They once had freedom to roam the neighborhood and live life to its fullest. While roaming, males would come into contact with females and eagerly embrace the call of the wild. Afterwards, the male continues on his way. As he encounters another female, as his desire calls, he repeats the process. Thus, we have another male that pursues and explores multiple partners. Why?

Finally, we look at men. Man meets woman and has sex with her. The woman emotionally attaches herself to that physical bond with him. But the man continues on to yet another woman and then another. Even though his physical body focuses on the person next to him at that moment, his mind lapses back to the original woman he left behind because he had feelings for her also. Well, why is he philandering?

Cheating is a word established by society to define a person that indulges multiple sexual partners after a monogomous commitment has been established between a man and a woman. Careful review of the previous examples will show that a male’s desire for multiple partners is a natural process of life. If the examples above don’t convince you, look into the sexual habits of other animal species and compare their behavior to that of a man. Tigers, lions, dogs, house cats and even bugs are all subject to this internal drive for sexual gratification. Keep in mind there are some species that go against that process and remain loyal to one mate for a lifetime. Thus, we have some men that don’t cheat. There is an exception to most every rule. Not all men cheat, but many do and will. It is a process that they themselves don’t understand. Bad relationships, neglect, self-esteem, etc., are just excuses and reasons to justify the behavior, but not the true reason. Simply put, men cheat due to a natural desire for sexual indulgence that they usually gain no control over until they accept Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior. Only when a man fears the Lord, will he resist and abstain from promiscuity and commit to the woman God has chosen for him.